Why you don’t feel close to God

Hello, everyone πŸ™‚ I’m back! It has been a while, but during that time I have been learning and growing closer to God. I feel inspired to speak of my relationship with Him and what I have learned. I always value wisdom that others can share with me, so hopefully this helps you out.

I get asked a question similar to these ones quite frequently: “How can I feel closer to God?” “Why do I feel far away from God?” “Why don’t I feel God’s love?” These are all valid questions and ones that need to be explored, but they all have a common denominator, FEELINGS. As humans, our feelings tend to dictate a lot. We put a lot of emphasis on feelings and allow them to have control over our lives. As Christians I think we can all agree that we need to trust God, but that sometimes stops when it comes to our emotions. I speak for myself when I say that I trust my feelings over God a lot of the times. It is just easier. Proverbs 28:26 tells us that, “Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.” Jesus is the truth, and the Word tells us that even our own emotions and minds lie to us. I think the Bible makes it pretty clear that we should not trust our own judgement on situations.

A lot of Christians have the goal of feeling God’s love and overall just feeling close to Him. That’s awesome that we have the desire to know God more, but one thing we need to realize is that this isn’t going to happen in an instant. Although God can perform miracles, we can’t just wait for the feelings to come. Our relationship with God isn’t about feelings. Think about a romantic relationship. When you are interested in someone you won’t just ignore the person and expect them to get to know and love you. Of course not! You want to express interest and spend time with them. It’s the same way with God.

I was reading through Psalm 91 (which I recommend you read) which is a great Psalm about confiding in the Lord and finding comfort in Him. It mentioned how we should DWELL in the Lord and seek refuge in Him. Dwelling is not just occasionally speaking to, dwelling is relying on and completely residing in. There are many reasons why you may not have a strong relationship with the Lord and this could be one of them. The Bible doesn’t tell us that we start dwelling in the Lord when we feel close to Him. This is the point that I think a lot of Christians miss, including myself. We need to choose to love God, not just wait for a feeling.

Our relationship with the Lord is not based on feelings, that is not what it revolves around. We shouldn’t let our flawed feelings dictate how much we pursue the Lord. So, what does this mean for you? I would first tell you to make the choice to love God. Don’t wait to pursue Him, act now! Pray that God blesses you with motivation and more desire to know Him. Pray that God gives you the strength to not rely on your emotions, but on Him. Read your Bible daily and work on memorizing scripture. Get involved in church or Bible studies and learn God’s word! Lastly I would say, completely rely on God. Incorporate Him into your life and follow His plan. It took me a while to learn this, but now that I’m obeying what He commands me to do I feel so close to Him!

I hope this post helped some of you who have that desire to know God πŸ™‚ If you have any questions about this post or faith or anything else feel free to comment or DM me on instagram. I hope you all have an amazing week and know that I am so thankful for the person on the other side of the screen reading this.

❀ Briana

4 thoughts on “Why you don’t feel close to God

  1. I love this! thank you for sharing.. sometimes I find it hard to be able to share the word of God, as much as I want to, we were talking about this in a small group today that it is hard to tell others that you aren’t sure where they stand, about god because we are scared of what they might say or think, or if they won’t want to be friends anymore, but it’s hard knowing that you can plant a seed in them and water it, but only God can make it grow, but you want to see them meet God so badly. One of my small group leaders told us the verse Jeremiah 1:8 8 And don’t be afraid of the people, for I will be with you and will protect you. I, the Lord, have spoken!” and my goal for this week is to go about living that, because i want everyone who meets me, to meet Jesus.
    I was also wondering what your take on htis would be? How do you go about this with some of your friends?
    thank you!

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    1. I think a lot of Christians find it hard to share their faith with others who may not agree. After growing my relationship with Jesus it has become so much easier for me to share my faith with others. I would say definitely read your Bible and continue growing your community of Christ-followers. There are also many ways to share your faith without directly starting a conversation about it. Just demonstrating God’s love and kindness is a great way to do that. Like you said, we can plant a seed but it’s up to God to make it grow. Even if your friends get offended or maybe don’t want to be friends with you, what is the worst thing that comes from that? You planted a seed and obeyed God. You were acting out of love for them. A lot of my friends are already Christian, but I love using social media as a way to open that door. I post on my personal account about God. This makes it known that I am a Christian (if they ever have questions) and shares God’s word to friends who may not be religious. I love that verse, going to highlight it in my Bible rn! I hope this made sense haha I sort of rambled but hopefully, you got the idea


      1. I’m so glad that you’ve found it helpful πŸ™‚ that makes my day! I’ll be praying for you ❀


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